This episode of the Coached podcast is about the pain and glory involved in embracing change – for anyone who is currently going through a life transition, a company transition and even a major event, such as the loss of a loved one. Answering a caller who asks how to move through grief as we grow out of an old identity, Coach Keren explains why it’s so hard, what the four specific costs are to change that hold us “hostage,” and gives you actionable tips so that you can always surmount these challenges immediately.
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In This Episode:
- [01:30] The pain of change is many times the pain of the shedding of an old identity.
- [03:30] Change is frightening, mainly because it means uncertainty – and uncertainty is the hardest pain for humans to endure. Here’s why.
- [05:40] Another challenge? Many times, the people around you will judge you for changing.
- [09:50] There is actual hardship in going through something new – but it’s not what you think.
- [11:50] Though the loss of identity may have kept you from taking a big leap, you can overcome this limit into the broadest realms yet in your life. We will show you how.
- Uncertainty is the main deterrent to embracing change, as it is the most painful emotion for humans. The reason is that when you don’t know what’s going to happen, you duck for shelter automatically – as the brain fires off the signal: “danger!”. In other words, pain may hurt, but uncertainty is terrifying.
- In addition to worrying about uncertainty, another thing blocking you from embracing change in your life is that there will always be people who are not used to the former you in this new form, and they’re going to meet you with some resistance.
- You CAN learn how to blast through the criticism as you decide to change. It will also comfort you to know that after the change you made in your life and when you are successful and living authentically and fully-charged, those same people who hurled criticism will ask you how you did it!
- Eventually, after you complete the process of grieving your old identity, you’re going to stop looking down, and you’ll start looking up again. That is when vast new horizons will open.