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    Keren Eldad

    How to Stop Playing Small

    Hey there Superstars,

    Here comes a big confession: I’m over it. OVER. IT.

    Sometime in the beginning of this year, something switched for me. At first, it was a keen realization that I was not as charged as I usually am. In session after session, I was feeling restless and starting to modify my own tracks to try new things. It was definitely a wake up call: I recognized that tug, that ennui, that boredom, frankly; I had outgrown my latest phase.  

    It was then that I decided to play bigger – with With Enthusiasm Coaching, with my life, with my dreams.

    I worked hard and I made big choices to rent a new office space, to employ three new team members, to really stretch myself and somewhere in that same month, to buy a chic new condo in Austin (coming Fall 2022. You are going to LOVE IT).

    As I’ve been doing this, there have been moments in which I feel overwhelmed. Sometimes, I feel a bit sad for “giving up” the ability to coach you one on one, and I don’t love having to say NO to those who still want the terms that were available in the past. Understandable, right? Especially since like you, I am a genuinely nice person who wants YOU to be happy. 

    After a huge expansion often comes a contraction. I know that. I also know that if I don’t keep pushing and expanding, I will not make it to the next level. And it is TIME to go.

    When you feel that pain, that ennui – make no mistake: IT IS TIME. 

    So if December and January were very much about safety – keeping it quiet and small and manageable, them by the end of January, after I’d finished selling my second group offering of the year, I was speaking with a client and friend of mine whom I adore, Amanda Mintz, hearing myself tell her to stop playing small and to finally see how brilliant she is at anything she chooses. 

    That’s when it hit me: I’m done with playing small, too.

    You see, after the expansion and contraction, if you wait a bit…. the next wave WILL COME.

    So that was my confession. And my big announcement today is: I’m at the beginning of the next wave of playing big.

    This year, pace and ease as my guides and plenty of personal projects going on as well (a wedding in October – Ryan and I are finally getting married! A new home!!), playing big feels even more powerful. It feels more permanent, more manageable because it’s contained in this idea of finding a sustainable pace.

    The feeling when I sat in that call with Amanda was one of quiet determination, and of clear boundaries. It was so easy for me to feel when thinking of Amanda. Or other badasses I adore and watch  – Kristy Hurt (the Colab). Tracy Holland (Potential to Powerhouse). All y’all. I just think the WORLD of you. 

    …and guess what? I gotta walk that walk myself now. 

    I’m done with saying yes when I mean no. (More on that soon.)

    I’m done with worrying about managing absolutely everything myself. I’ll still worry, but how about it NOT being the default?

    I’m done with people pleasing so that I don’t even know what’s right for me anymore.

    I’m done with fearing that it won’t work – I’m just ready to make it happen and que sera, sera.

    So here’s the thing:

    I know that being done with worry and fear and BS and ennui doesn’t mean that all magically goes away. I’m not here to tell you that it will. 

    But what I do know is that making small changes, taking small steps towards upholding boundaries and getting more aware of your feelings so that you can harness them and see what they are telling you (something I’ve been neglecting in the huge growth periods) is doable and will help me to move past fear, worry and struggle.

    For me, there’s a specific feeling in my body. It feels like focus. It feels like energy, but in a calm way, rather than chaotic freaking out energy. Easy, charged focus. 

    So, what’s true for you? Are you in expansion or contraction right now?

    Have you had a phase in your life when you felt like you were just done?

    If so: GOOD. 

    Here’s a final thought from Jack Canfield:

    “Everything you want is out there waiting for you to ask. Everything you want also wants you. But you have to take action to get it.”

    Ready to make some BIG WAVES? 

    First, I want you to know that I will be talking about next level thinking versus all your short circuits (aka “impostor syndrome”) tomorrow on Clubhouse with my pals at @fylinyc – go to my IG stories on @coachkeren to get the details, and watch this space for a chance to sign up for the full fledged webinar next week. 

    In the meantime, if you’re already feeling super-charged, drop me an “OH HELL YES!” in the comments to let me know you’re ready to make big things happen!